I Let My Child Cry, and other confessions

chocolate-faceI let my child cry

I let him eat chocolate

…and fast food

Sometimes, crisps make an easy snack

He’s particularly partial to a Jaffa Cake too

He still has twice daily milk from a baby bottle, at 17 months old

…he also still has a dummy

I don’t bathe him every day

Sometimes I shout.

Guess what? None of this makes me a bad parent. He knows he is loved, and when he is distressed we rush to him. He has healthy meals (95% of the time), but also enjoys the odd bit of fun food. He takes a dummy at sleep time and when he’s poorly or upset, because it helps to calm him. He is also at the stage where he is testing boundaries and sometimes pushes us too far.

With the knowledge that nobody is perfect, why do so many parents mount unneeded stress on themselves to make everything just so? So what if your toddler goes out in clothes that already have a bit of food on them? So what if they don’t have a strict routine and aren’t being taught something new every day?

As long as your child is loved, clothed, fed, and has a roof over their head, it doesn’t matter if the rest falls by the wayside. Stop putting pressure on yourself to follow the book and get everything right. Instead, make the most of that time and show your child what life and love are truly all about.

My Petit Canard

7 thoughts on “I Let My Child Cry, and other confessions

    1. All things in moderation I say! As long as your child is growing up healthy, does it really matter if they have something out of a packet?!

  1. Totally agree! Exactly how I’m feeling today actually. Barely slept so it’s biscuits for breakfast and probably – McDonald’s for tea but these days are equipped and far between. Sometimes you do what you get a do to get through the day! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

    1. McDonald’s for tea sounds fab! It’s been a Nanny treat for my son a couple of times now, and he is keen on their fish fingers!
      Thanks for having me 🙂

  2. All true. My eldest had a dummy until she was three. When we got rid of it she didn’t even cry, half the time I think we needed her to have it more than she did. And no, she doesn’t have a speech impediment other than the fact she’s missing her 4 front teeth currently. Everyone just needs to cut each other and themselves some slack!
    #marvmondays.

    1. They are only small for such a short amount of time. We need to make the most of it and stop forcing them to grow up faster than they already do. If we restrict everything, I believe it can cause them as much stress and upset as it causes us!

  3. I completely agree and can say that I have done many of these things too with both of our little ones. It doesnt make us bad parents, it makes us normal 🙂 Great post, thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

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